Anne and I know a shy guy - her brother. He isn't the best-looking
rooster in the barnyard, but he always seems to have lots of chicks
pecking around him.

What's the attraction? The mystery, I think. He doesn't say much so
women fill in the blanks. Also I think it's refreshing; a relief from
the knuckle-dragging Neanderthals out there. They like the challenge
of getting him to open up. And, yes, they even ask him out, but he's
the three-date strikeout king.

Being shy can work for you at first, but it won't get you what you
want in the long run. Women want a man to be confident and assertive.
Then they can be a woman! If you don't step up to the plate, you'll
bring out the "mother" in them and be relegated to the "friends"
category. You'll have lots of female companionship, but no romance.

So keep in mind a little boy you've seen recently, and avoid doing the
things that little boys do with their moms - they ask permission, they
worry about pleasing her, they never take initiative, they aren't
spontaneous, they don't know what they want, and they expect to be
taken care of.

You don't need any of that, so make sure you aren't giving the wrong
impression.

Dating is frustrating to everyone. I coach men and women both, around
emotional intelligence, dating and relationships, and I hear the same
thing from both sexes. It's frustration, rejection, confusion, and
mystery until it works out, and it will. No one knows what's going on,
so just hang in there. Men that have a lot of bravado are just
covering it up. No one likes to strike out, but everyone does. If you
don't step up to the plate and take a swing, you can't get a home run.
It's as simple as that. It gets easier with time, your odds improve as
you practice, and the reward is definitely worth it. Eventually you'll
see a ball coming over the plate you know is a home run, and you

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